How to Really Like Yourself [masterclass]
What if being smart, talented and super-ambitious actually felt fun?
If you are struggling to get yourself to work or create at the level you want, liking yourself may seem pretty beside the point.
It may seem less a fundamental ingredient to the life you’re trying to have and more like icing on a cake you might be able to eat in the distant future, should you finally get enough done.
But how much we like ourselves actually forms the ground zero of everything big we try to do with our brains and our skills.
Without that liking, we can find ourselves struggling to make big decisions, follow through on original ideas, sit with hard challenges or act on our intuitions. All of which are indispensable for doing significant things in the world.
Or we may execute and follow through on our plans with confidence—but only provided that we can do everything extremely well, control all the variables and never make any big mistakes. Which means that we often swerve away from our most brilliant ideas, because they might require too much risk, trial and error.
Either way, without liking ourselves, we get frozen between what we believe we could do and what we actually deliver. We can sense the power of our unique combination of gifts, passions and interests—what I call each person’s talent fingerprint—but we can’t fully unlock it.
We’re on pause, somewhere between caterpillar and butterfly, indefinitely.
In this free masterclass, hosted on 16 and 19 April, I’ll be breaking down exactly why liking yourself is the missing link between having the skills to achieve big things and actually being able to achieve them.
I’ll show you why the usual approaches we encounter—including those based on self-esteem and self-compassion—don’t usually help us like ourselves, and the best solution that I have found for myself and my clients.
You’ll come away crystal clear on:
What smart, ambitious people get wrong about liking ourselves
Why confidence, self-esteem and liking yourself are not the same thing
The crucial thing that ‘self-love’ practices tend to miss
Why liking ourselves is the opposite of self-indulgence
The best tools and techniques I have found to address the problem
The big differences you can expect to see in your life and habits when you like yourself
You will never think about liking yourself or about accomplishing big goals the same way again.
One more thing:
In honour of the masterclass, I’m also releasing a special, daily series on the hidden costs of not really liking ourselves. For the next seven days, you’ll get one of my deep dives into this topic delivered directly to you.
This is the first time I’ve offered a daily series daily instead of a weekly one. I designed it this way so that everyone coming to the workshop can turn up primed, informed and ready to go.
And also so that if you can’t make it, you’ll still get a chance to learn why this topic is so important and how to start thinking about it in a way that makes real change possible..
Look out for the first instalment tomorrow, where I’ll introduce a different, more powerful way to think about our constant drive for distraction.